Saturday, July 11, 2009

Marriage and not just a wedding

<The below mentioned are my personal and thoroughly personal views.
If anybody is offended, please do not blame me.
>

Some of my very good friends are getting married. To the people they love.
I am very happy for them. When two people in love make this committment,
my faith in worldy relations is restored. Life is too short to make a committment
like this for any other reason. (Entirely personal perception attached to this
comment.) Many parents (esp in the Indian middle class context) are inclined to getting
their girls married off as soon as they hit the 22-25 age range. It's like the glass ceiling
for women. I admit, my ego could be preventing me from seeing a reason through this,
but I fail to, seriously. Why does society have to decide what is good and bad for us,
almost always? It's alright if two people madly in love decide to get married at 22. But
why force someone to participate in "holy matrimony" just because their unmarried status
does not go down well with some people.After all marriage is not just about the wedding.
In fact its realms lie well beyond the scope of the social nupital ceremony. A marriage
has to go well. Else, it can spell disaster for everyone involved. It cannot be a compromise.
And more than anything else, the two people involved must understand the gravity of the
committment they are making.

Fate decides a lot of things for us. Marriages, they say, are made in heaven. But life
gives us the right to realise it, by ourselves. We should
excercise this. To its fullest potential.

5 comments:

Santosh Saladi said...

coming to the context of andhra pradesh, the place where i hail from some more pressure kicks in. especially on girls. parents force girls to get married by 22-23 and i feel it is insane.

Santosh Kandregula said...

Well.. Everything you said is true.. The fact that i have no other comments except this is the helplessness of the society in this matter.

The solution can only be from the individual or the closest ones. I shalll support my sister if she does not want to marry early.

Diwali time.. Create some more blogs. would love to see a blog on our very own Insti, N***E

Unknown said...

nicely put.its true,i completely agee wid this point.y does our society decide that it is compulsory for "decent" girls to get married by 25-26.its tym we shud get our choice in our life...

Unknown said...

absolutlely right Jeeta....very well written and very wise

z3phyr said...

lol.. you were right.. clearly, i did have you figured out all wrong :O